APRIL 3, 2025 | FEATURES | By Anonymous
Disclaimer: I am not a sex addict. I am writing this column for the benefit of others because this idea was meant to be shared with the world (Colorado College).
We are studying Sigmund Freud in my Block, and while I don’t find him particularly interesting, he did have some wild opinions about sex, especially how our sexual impulses are one of our biggest drives. However, that’s not what I want to talk about in this article. I’m more interested in Freud’s thoughts on dreams, specifically sex dreams.
Now, while I am confident writing about other sex topics, I lack confidence in this specific subject. Yes, I’ve had sex dreams and I’m sure a lot of my readers have too, but what do those sex dreams mean? I have no clue (essentially, just don’t quote me).
So to start, Freud believed that dreams were a form of “wish fulfillment.” This means that the dreams one has are the repressed desires, thoughts, and feelings present in our unconscious mind, the part of our mind that stores things we are unaware of. Our conscious mind, the part of our mind in which we acknowledge feelings, thoughts and memories, represses these things because they may not conform to the societal norm, which in turn would cause you to be punished by society (maybe they call you weird or outcast you) if you fulfilled these desires.
The second half of this is the sex portion (duh). A sex dream is pretty self-explanatory; it’s a dream about sex when asleep. This could be with your partner, with a celebrity, by yourself, with some random guy you just met, etc. The weird thing about sex dreams is that, like other dreams, you have no control.
Maybe in these dreams you’ll have sex with a lot of different people or just watch other people have sex. You may have kinky sex, be handcuffed to the bed, be compliant to your partner or even give head to a middle-aged man you don’t know. Nevertheless, you’re dreaming of some type of sex.
So, how are they connected? Or better yet, what would Freud say about this? I have no idea. But I would say it’s awesome. If I had to guess, he’d probably say these feelings are being repressed because society has told you or shown you what happens if you do this publicly. From my experience, having sex with multiple guys in a night has labeled me as a slut. And from what I’ve heard, being super kinky and asking to have a threesome can label you as creepy.
Most importantly (besides what everyone individually thinks), what would I say about this? Awesome (already been stated), cool, up for interpretation, fascinating and exciting! I think that if you are dreaming of something kinky or a fantasy, you should try it! One of the worst things a person can do is base their life on what society defines as normal.
With that being said, I hope you get to attempt kinky sex and all your sexual fantasies come true. You might love it! I want to assure everyone that sex dreams are very common and a natural part of life. You are not a freak for wanting to be whipped or spanked, and you do not have daddy issues for liking an older guy. You are perfect despite what society says.
Please remember to always practice safe sex between you and your partner!
If you or anyone you know is suffering from sexual violence or harassment please follow these resources.
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
Campus Safety Emergency: (719) 389-6911