DEC 5, 2024 | FEATURES | By Anonymous
Disclaimer: I am not a sex addict. I am writing this column for the benefit of others because this idea was meant to be shared with the world (Colorado College).
Welcome back readers,
I hope you all had a wonderful break and are excited to be back at CC.
It’s no secret that everyone has people at home they’ve gone btb (below the belt) with. But the question is: did you see them over Thanksgiving break? (I guarantee some of you were counting down the days until you saw them, don’t lie to yourself).
I’ll answer first. Yes, I did. And let me tell you, it was so much worse than I remember. I’m not sure if it’s that he has become annoying or I have matured, but wow do I not want to see him over winter break.
Don’t get me wrong, I am very thankful for him. During the summer of 2024, there was no one I would have rather been with; he was all I thought about. And when I left for CC in August, I thought I would never feel that way again.
It was only a matter of time until I met another guy who would make me feel the same way. And it is the guy it’s complicated with. Which, to update you guys, it’s not complicated anymore. We ended things (I cannot stop crying). Long story short, it was my fault. Maybe in the future you’ll get the full story, but not today.
Anyway, I think I just realized how unrealistic getting with home-boy (the boy from home) is. First, he is still in high school (which isn’t weird because I am only 11 months older than him). Second, we are almost 2000 miles away from each other. Third, I am so awesome and perfect, and he just doesn’t acknowledge that.
However, that was just my experience.
My friend and her home-boy had a wonderful time seeing each other (so much so that they both came multiple times).
And my other home friend, like me, got the ick.
I was sad at first to realize that me and home-boy’s relationship is likely never going to be the same as it was. But I think it’s important to appreciate all the amazing memories you’ve made rather than being hung up on it forever.
My advice to you, if you have just ended a relationship or are thinking about it, is to take care of yourself. It’s okay to cry, to eat sweet treats, to take a day off; give yourself some love and gratitude.
It’s truly different for everyone when reconnecting with someone you used to know so well. It’s okay to still feel the same way, and it’s okay to want to move on. You should always have a choice in the relationships you are in and/or not in.
(P.S. I am so very thankful for you all!)
Please remember to always practice safe sex between you and your partner!
If you or anyone you know is suffering from sexual violence or harassment please follow these resources.
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
Campus Safety Emergency: (719) 389-6911