“I constantly feel like the odd one out of my friend group. Everyone else has someone they are closer to, or would rather be hanging out with, than me. It hurts really bad, and I don’t know what to do about it anymore.”
Dear Odd One Out,
I am sorry to hear this. I genuinely believe that feeling excluded is one of the worst feelings in the world, and I too have been in your shoes. It is soul crushing and honestly, it breaks my heart you are hurting. Before I dive in, I would first like to applaud you for confiding in me. I know this confession could not have been an easy pill to swallow.
First and foremost, I want to ask you a question. This may sound silly, but have you thought maybe this friend group isn’t for you? Feeling like the odd one out means there is something about you that sets you apart from the rest of the group. You are different, and that is a beautifully powerful thing. Unfortunately, I think you may have found yourself intertwined with unfit companions. It sounds like these friends neglect to celebrate you for your differences, and because of this, they leave you feeling like the odd one out. It sounds like you are different (again, this is a good thing), and it is time we find some friends that can appreciate you for it.
My advice to you is to set yourself free. Set yourself free from the people that hurt you. Free yourself from their judgment and any feelings of inadequacy based on this experience. Set yourself free to pursue your own passions and interests; tap into your strengths. Spend some time alone, get to know yourself a little better. Maybe if you are more comfortable in your own company, you’ll know what you want in a friend. I encourage you to allow your natural and authentic personality to expose itself. I am sure you’ll find like-minded people while you’re at it.
I promise it will turn around eventually. You will find your group, those who listen to you without you having to ask. Those who understand you without you having to explain. But most importantly, I want you to know you did nothing wrong. The right friends for you won’t leave you as the odd one out.
Take Care,
Ruby
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