“Is there any way to escape the brutality of CC hookup culture?”
Dear hookup culture,
The harsh reality is that Colorado College hookup culture IS brutal, and there’s no escape.
I imagine hookup culture at a big school runs rather smoothly; you get along with someone, have one night of magic, then you forget about it and disappear into the abyss of your 40,000 classmates. On the other hand, at CC, you’ll see your once-lover standing in line at Susie B’s, bump into them in the laundry room, and see them twenty more times even though they are the exact person you don’t want to see. There are few secrets, there’s no hiding and unfortunately, this is the truth.
So no, I don’t really think there is an escape to the brutality of hookup culture at CC. The intimacy of going to a small school makes hooking up with someone more difficult than it needs to be. I know this sounds grim, but I do believe there are a few things that will make it seem a bit more manageable.
The first thing I would recommend you do is look for suitors outside of the party scene. Going out may be a good way to meet people, but not everyone’s intentions are in the right place. If you’re only shopping for a suitor at parties, you may be looking for the wrong person.
What is also important to remember is it may seem like everyone around you is hooking up, but that is far from the truth. People are more than willing to talk about their sexual escapades; you don’t often hear people talking about a lack thereof. There’s also a lot more people dating than you think, but that’s a subject to attack another day.
Nonetheless, I am sorry the CC hookup culture has been brutal to you. I’m sorry if you’ve experienced ghosting that hurt more than you’d like to admit or if your social scene is overwhelmed with flings. Trust me, there are more people in your boat than you realize. And please, try to remember college is only for a short time and that hookup culture can only plague you for so long. I wish you all the best, and I’m sure you’re quite the catch.
Take Care,
Ruby