MARCH 27, 2025 | FEATURES | By Anonymous
Disclaimer: I am not a sex addict. I am writing this column for the benefit of others because this idea was meant to be shared with the world (Colorado College).
Welcome back to another Block, readers!
As you know, we have all just come back from Spring Break, and whether you went somewhere to visit your partner or not, it’s time to talk about long-distance relationships!
I’ve never been in a real relationship, let alone a long-distance one. I was ‘exclusive’ with someone before college, but broke it off when I left. Although the sex aspect carried over a little bit through Snapchat (if you know what I mean by that).
Anyway, I knew I needed to get the full rundown of what being in a long-distance relationship is like, especially in college. So, I interviewed one of my friends during a peak UV afternoon.
To start, let me give you some background information. This couple has been dating for a year and two months. They attended the same high school and were in the same friend group starting their junior year of high school. Now, they have been dating long-distance for seven months.
My personal thinking was never to go into college in a relationship, so I was curious about the challenges and what makes it worth it. She emphasized multiple challenges, such as communication. She said, “Hard conversations are over the phone,” and “Communication is much harder over text.” She also feels there is a certain amount of insecurity she feels being away from him: “It’s hard when I can’t see him and get the reassurance I need.”
However, the time they spend together is more meaningful, and she gets excited to see him, which is important in a relationship. She said she “doesn’t take him for granted.”
Then, I asked her about some of the “rules” in their relationship (no shit I don’t mean ‘no getting with other people’). She emphasized the importance of communication. “We need to address things immediately,” she said, so feelings don’t build up. They try to FaceTime at least every other day and plan trips to see each other.
As the CC sex columnist, I naturally had to ask about sex.
Having my own preferred method of sex over a distance, I was curious about their mode of sex during times apart. She said that over the phone or on FaceTime isn’t their preferred method. However, Snapchat works great for them (what I like to call “Snapsex”)! They send pictures and videos, although it took them some time to get comfortable with this. I asked how having a roommate affects their ability to be intimate over the phone. She said, “It’s not hard, but it’s limiting,” which is something I’m sure everyone can relate to, whether in a long-distance relationship or not.
It was interesting to hear about the differences in their sexual relationship when they are together versus apart. When they were having sex often, still being in the same place, it was less exciting. But, since they don’t see each other that often anymore, there’s more of a “buildup.” She said, “When we talk about it, I want it more but can’t have it and it makes me crave him.” So hot, I love it.
Long-distance relationships aren’t for everyone. However, they can be special for those willing to try. And, they can even make the sex better! Please never compare your relationship to anyone else’s because all that matters is that you are happy, safe and loved.
Please remember to always practice safe sex between you and your partner!
If you or anyone you know is suffering from sexual violence or harassment, please follow these resources.
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
Campus Safety Emergency: (719) 389-6911