JAN 23, 2025 | FEATURES | By Anonymous
Disclaimer: I am not a sex addict. I am writing this column for the benefit of others because this idea was meant to be shared with the world (Colorado College).
Welcome back readers,
I hope you’ve all had a wonderful winter break and are excited for the second semester. As we move into the new year, I want to cover a topic that is particularly relevant to me at this time: abstinence.
As you know, based on previous articles, a lot happened last semester. I ate shit running from South Hall (ouch), got with multiple guys in one night, was shamed for having sex with multiple guys in one night (boooo), taught my friend about the vulva and so much more!
Oh! And we cannot forget about everything that happened with the guy it was complicated with.
I learned something from my experiences, and I hope you did, too.
Regardless of these great memories, I am choosing to practice abstinence until I want to participate in sex again. I know this may come as a surprise because I write a column on sex, but I am excited about it!
So, what is abstinence? Abstinence is the practice of self-restraint, especially when it comes to acts that give pleasure, frequently used in reference to sex. People may choose to practice abstinence to avoid risks associated with sex, such as pregnancy or STIs (stay tuned). However, for many people, abstinence has a significant impact on self-worth, priorities and developing self-validation.
When I first decided to abstain from sex, I told everyone I was celibate. While celibacy is similar to abstinence, the two are still notably different. Celibacy is a long-term commitment to eliminating sex from your life. This practice is often connected to religion and fosters a deeper connection to a spirit or vow. Abstinence is a temporary commitment. This can extend for any amount of time, such as waiting for marriage or other reasons.
I have frequently been asked why I am choosing to be abstinent. Specifically, in the words of a boy I used to have sex with, “Why aren’t you fuckin’ anymore?” Personally, I want to reset and give my body and mind a break to allow time for healing. I am struggling with issues of validation and I want to find that validation within myself, rather than from the lacrosse team.
I am happy to share that I have been abstinent for 51 days. Although I am refraining from sex, it does not mean anyone else has to. Sex is a part of nature and is healthy and normal for everyone (if you wish to participate).
As always, please practice safe sex.
If you or anyone you know is suffering from sexual violence or harassment refer to these resources.
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
Campus Safety Emergency: (719) 389-6911